Well this is probably a struggle most of you guys and girls can relate to: Valentines Day! I might be a couple of days too late, but heck, its inspiration and the first thing that came to mind for a nice blog starter.
Yes this day can actually be a wonderful dream come true when you actually get that anonymous card in the mail. Hell even an anonymous e-card can totally make your day! Just knowing somebody is out there thinking about you, a hot girl, a cool friend, or maybe just your parents can make a cloudy day feel like a clear summer day. But unfortunately, for all of us "non-bathing-suit-models" out there, not every year is a magical explosion full of little hearts and unicorns riding on rainbows. Expectations can really rise up thanks to mass media (let's face it, they created this day) social pressure or maybe even silent hopes that the love of your life has finally heard your telepathic call for attention.
- Setting expectations
So let's get back on topic. How to handle this day if you do get a date? Well as for me, I finally had a date this Valentine's Day. Don't get me wrong, I'm not some lone virgin waiting in a basement (I actually live on my own) waiting for a girl to show some interest. I've had a relationship on valentines day before, but this was different. When you're in the starting phase and still discovering each other a date like this can be crucial. Like I said before, expectations can make or break this day, set them too high, and you will get disappointed. Set them too low ("Im not participating in that commercial crap babe! You know me!") aka being a dick to her, and you'll never get something going.
The most crucial part of my plan was to make this girl feel really special, I wanted to show her I actually liked her without all the cheesy pick up lines. Instead of taking her out to dinner like we both had done before on different dates, I invited her to come and eat a homecooked meal at my place. That way you show your love interest you got some nice cookin' skillz, plus bonus points for the effort you put into the food. In my case a nice tomato soup and lasagna dish. Kudo's if you manage to find out whatever she likes beforehand so you can cook something she really likes!
Roses, roses and even more roses. You practically drown in flowers on this day. Girls will often say it has been done before, but they will always feel great when they get them anyway. But when I say 'give' them something, it doesn't necessarily mean the gift itself. As you can learn from all the corporations promoting valentine's day, half the work is in the presentation of your product. In this case, the gift is just a channel, the girl needs to see you as the object of her desire. The dinner was a nice starter to get comfy with each other, but then it was time to unveil my little plan. It wasn't exactly a world changing game plan, but it's something I put some thing effort into instead of just winging it like I usually do.
- Give them something to remember this day by!
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So when we finished dinner, I decided my valentine's date should put in a little work before she could get the obligated rose. I have the advantage of having a giant chalkboard in my room so I made a this rose drawing and made up a poem of two short lines. I could've just given her the flowers but it would'nt really have made the impact I was hoping for. So when she finished reading it, she turned around to the table, where I had quickly put her new Teddybear holding the rose in its paws. It wasn't that much trouble, but it definately had more of an effect this way! I will spare you the details of the rest of the date, but I can tell you it was way more awesome than the standard dinnerdates I've had before...Don't just Hallmark your way out of a valentine's date. Get creative!
So anyway, I think that about sums it up for one of my first life strategies! I realize it might've been a bit of a read, but for those of you that actually read it entirely I'm very curious to what you think of it!
Hell just tell me whether this is a steaming pile of romantic dating crap or that you may actually like or use what you just read! ;) Blog you later!